Boundaries and discipline are the toughest part of parenting, according to many, many parents.
Here are 2 tips that we use in martial arts to help your child develop a healthy relationship with both.
1. Simple Rules.
Kids need rules – but they have to be simple. When rules have “ifs” “ands” or “buts”, the line between following and breaking the rule becomes blurred. And kids will test out every “loophole” you come up with.
“No yelling in the house.”
If you want to enforce this rule, don’t allow for any exceptions (aside from emergencies).
If your child needs you, or you need your child, either you have to come to him, or he has to come to you.
2. Enforce Rules. No Exceptions.
For every rule you set, you have to enforce it. And you have to enforce it in a clear, simple way.
For example, if your child yells in the house, and you have a rule against yelling, you can allow them one warning.
If they yell again, then enforce a punishment. No more warnings. Sometimes your kids will kick and scream on their way to time out. But you can’t give up. Kids kick and scream because they crave structure and support.
They need to test your limits to see how far you’re willing to go to support them and give them structure.
So don’t cave in!
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